The 90% rule

I've just cleaned up the very many pictures in my tablet...
I love taking pictures of the nature.
I'm afraid I'll forget how pretty it is... but how could I?
Perhaps, I am missing out by taking so many pictures... but this should be another post...
I am getting off track here.

I wish to talk about the 90% rule. As an essentialist, it is of great importance to understand the rule. Essentialism is all about choices. Not everything can be chosen or kept or prioritize! It goes without saying... there is not enough time and energy in our one short life for all of it. Period.

The 90% rule states that when prioritizing or choosing one thing over another, grade them. Only what is a 9/10 or 10/10 makes the cut. Oh... I see what you are thinking... everything in your life already is 9 or 10! Well clearly, this is not true. You are lying to yourself. You are avoiding choices, selection.

Why are you afraid to pick your real favorites?

Because you already spent money on something is not a reason to keep.  Do you use it?  Do you love it? Let it go. Cut your losses.

Because you invested time in a project doesn't necessarily makes it worth investing more time. Does it really make you extremely happy?

All the activities in your agenda, are you really looking forward to them or do they feel more like an obligation?

Do all your relationships bring you love, peace? Are you really grateful for all or just gotten use to them? Do they still have a reason to be?

Be honest. Brutally honest.

You need to become a much pickier judge!

Here are some tips:

For material possessions. If you are not so sure about their value in your life right now, put them away from sight in a box and label the box three months from now. On that date, if you haven't gone back in it DO NOT OPEN IT and bring it to good will. If something is a family heirloom that you have no use for but which to remember, take a picture and part from the item.  You can also ask yourself, how much would you pay TODAY for a specific item? We change over time and it is not because we paid 200$ for that bag that we have to keep it... and you can also ask yourself  "would I buy it again?".

My favorite question to ask myself always is: if I lost everything to a fire what would I buy back?

For projects. The time you already spent on a project means nothing if you have no more passion for it. Not everything has an end result. Sometimes it brought you to something else and that's OK. Sometimes you've lost sight of the reason for doing it. Move on. Life is a journey not a destination and so are everything you do or set up to do. If it no longer brings you joy, meaning or a reason to wake up in the morning, let go. Find another project. Something that resonates with you. If you knew how much longer you have here, what would you focus on? If money was no object, what would you prioritize?

Activities. Why is your agenda so loaded? Who chose all those meetings, activities, social events? Why do you feel like you HAVE TO DO IT ALL. Because you don't. You really don't. What if you don't show up? Would the world stop turning? Would people like you less? Or maybe they'd respect you more... When was the last time you had a day to yourself. Nothing on the agenda? Just enjoying yourself, your kids, your love... just being. Not doing. Not running around trying to make it work? Try it! Pick one day a week where there will be no obligations and see what comes of it ( if a whole day is too much, pick an evening).

Relationships. I am all for having great supportive meaningful relationships in your life. But, that takes time and investment. You can't properly nourish so many. You just can't because you are human. Pick a few. Besides your spouse and kid(s), if you have any, maybe 2-3 people worth investing in.  There is no time for more. Also keep in mind that it doesn't mean they will be there for ever. As you change, as they change, as life goes on, they might go... and that is OK as there will be more coming.

So now, using those tools... what are your true 9 and 10?
These are worth investing in now.
The rest has to go.
It is in your past.

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Chloe 💜&✌

10 favorite fall outfits (fall wardrobe part 2)

Hello dear readers!

This post will most likely be for "her" but with imagination and open mindedness some "he" could like it!

I shared with you before the list of items in my fall wardrobe. You can read about it here.

Now I had some fun and created outfits here that I can't wait to wear...it's a good thing that I like to wear two different outfits on most days!

I like to bring into fall some of my favorite summer pieces as you can see in the pictures...

1) sleeveless flowery top with extremely destroyed jeans, navy cardigan and Birkenstock.
2) v-back t-shirt (it's actually a v-neck that I wear backwards!) with men cargo shorts, flannel shirt and scarf, red boots

3) boho blouse, denim shorts, green scarf and red boots
4) pink t-shirt, capri pants flannel blouse and Birkenstock

5) striped blouse, blue cami, jeans short, brown boots and colourful scarf
6)mustard top, capri pants, scarf and Birkenstock

7) flower dress, mustard cardigan and brown boots
8) sleeveless kaki top , black denim shorts, grey cardigan, red scarf and red boots 

9) off white t-shirt, skirt, mustard cardigan and red boots
10) sleeveless flower top, black denim short, grey cardigan, orange scarf and red boots

Now, I created these outfits a few days back... and now that I look at them I have so many more ideas!!!

I think there will be a few more posts related to the subject!
Perhaps something like "x number of ways to wear this item!"

What do you guys think???

Please share if you liked it...
Chloe 💜&✌

List of 10+1 tips to save $$$

Hey you!

People often ask how we can live off a modest salary... and just the one!

My husband does work he loves and get enough money for me not to work and concentrate on other stuff (more on that in another post). And he works in a regular job... no big shot carreer or successful business! We are regular people!

Therefore you can do it to!

The trick is not only in how much money you make! It is mostly related to what you spend! You can be rich getting 50k a year for a couple! We are.

But we had to make choices.
Accept the trade-offs.
Decide what is essential to us.

Here are some tips on how we do it. But these are just ideas... not rules! You are the essentialist, you do what works for YOU!

1) eat less - it is now well known that in America, most non-overweight people eat 30% to much still. Decrease your plate size... you'll save $, be healthier and feel better!

2) put water tank on highest temperature as it forces you to use more cold than hot water to get the temperature you want! Hot water is way more expensive! CAREFUL, YOU CAN'T DO THAT IF YOU HAVE YOUNG KIDS, THEY COULD BURN THEMSELVES!!!

3) avoid buying new furniture - old furniture was of much higher quality! If it's damaged, fix it! If you no longer can stand the look of it, be creative: dye it, paint it, write on it, draw on it, collage... change upholstery! Switch with someone else...

4) get good quality clothes that you absolutely adore, that fits you well, are your style and will wear forever!

5) alternatively thrift store shop for clothes - there are many thrift stores shop anywhere now and of all kind of style, price and quality! If you go regularly you can find amazing deals! I found 2 items last summer, that were of high quality, never worn (they still had original price tags!) and so much cheaper! A top originally priced at 89$ for 9$ and capri pants originally price at 59$ for 2$!!!

6) unless it is required by a medical condition ditch the AC (and being out if shape is not a medical condition!)

7) plan your menu, batch cook, use left over by adding to them to create another meal, buy local and in season, buy nourishing food -you'll need less (example, potatoes and oatmeal are super food and quite inexpensive!) REMEMBER, THROWING AWAY FOOD IS THROWING AWAY MONEY PLUS A WASTE OF FINITE RESOURCES!

8) lower your heating cost by decreasing temperature to 15C when sleeping or out and not more than 18-19C when you are there! Use blankets when watching  TV and dress up more!

9) ditch the car if you can... if not, use it as little as you can! Walk/bike when you can, group your errands, carpool...

10) live in a smaller and/or cheaper place! Do you really need all that space? Luxury?

+1) as a writer, I should probably not write that, but use the library! I do it!!! You do not have to buy all the books you read! (Honestly, did you read all the books that are currently in your home? How much did you spend on books you never and will never read?)  Buy only those you'll keep coming back to! Another option is to buy e-books : they are cheaper and still contribute to the author's income!

These are some of the things we did to lower our budget and be able to afford living on a modest income!

What would you do?
What would you never do?
Any other ideas?

If you liked this post please share!
Thanks
Chloe  💜&✌

Shopping ban - when and why

And yet another one...

Hello dear readers!

I feel like it is time for yet another shopping ban.
I feel like I do these quite often in the fall... it just seems like a good timming.

This year, it will be targeted to clothes because I've come to realise, that, by now, pretty much all I buy, aside from food, are clothes...

They will always be a passion.  That I mentioned before,  but it seem that by this time of the year, is a good time for not buying them.

For that reason, I am entering a clothes shopping ban between now and December 18.

Three whole months not buying any clothes.
I can do this!

Here are a few reasons...

1) I love fall clothes - easy to overspend. I have already treated myself for the season. I'm good.

2) we had fun all summer... we went out a little more, travelled, treated ourselves to more restaurants... now it's time to reset our finances and get ready for next summer!

3) it is the season of overspending! In general... from now to Christmas, people buy more than they need and surely more than they can afford!

4) avoiding all the "black friday" madness!!!

5) and even if they are important to me, there are things like experiences that are more essential!

So there you have it!
No shopping for me over the next 3 months. Especially clothes.

If I cheat, you'll be the first ones to know!

Let's see how that goes and what comes out of it.

Chloe 💜&✌

My fall wardrobe - part 1

Hello dear readers!

As summer slowly turns into fall, I want to present to you my fall wardrobe.

But first, let's go back to a short history of my clothes...

I am a reformed shopaholic.
I may have cured my need for shopping endlessly for in-style-at-the-moment clothes that I may or may not wear (sometimes not even once) but in no way have I stopped loving clothes and style!

On the good side, my love/addiction to shopping,  along with my many shopping bans have allowed me to develop a personal style rather than fall victim to fashion that changes all the time and is impossible to keep up with. A unique way to combine clothes: in fashion or not, old and new, thrift stores with brand names... and some hand me down. It did more than creating debt. Fortunately.

Fast forward to today. I have no more debt. I pay clothes cash. I do more thrift store shopping. I mostly buy new items when they are on sale. I do fair trade every chance I get.

But I won't get my wardrobe to less than what it is today.
I refuse to.
I tried.
I once had it down to as lown as 27 items for a season.
I was miserable.
No creativity possible.
Always the same.
Boring.

You see, to me clothes are  a way to express myself, to show who I am, to let out my inner creativity.
I need it.
To me, it is essential.

As an essentialist, I have determine that clothes will stay.
I chose them over a bigger apartment, a car, expensive furniture, artist material, books, CDs, cable TV, plenty of dishes, extra cookware and even food!

It is my choice, it represents who I am and I am happy with it.

So here are the items in my fall wardrobe:

(some of those items are carrying from summer over to fall and others will go well into winter. I do not have many one season only items. It is one of my criteria when I shop that an item can be worn for ideally 3 seasons!)

8 t-shirts
7 sleeveless tops
3 short sleeves tops
10 long sleeves tops
4 flannel shirt
2 dresses
3 skirts
5 shorts/Capri
4 jeans
1 kaki  pants
7 cardigans
Scarves
2 pairs of mid-calf boots
2 pairs of Birkenstock 

There it is. My wardrobe. It may seem excessive to some but not me.

And this is what is great with essentialism: it is not about number, or less simply for the sake of less, it is about choice, about what is essential to YOUR happiness.

What is essential to you?
What would you sacrifice to have more of something else?

Chloe  💜&✌

Listing some of my favorite books

Hello dear readers!

Sometimes, a short and sweet post is great for me... and you! Because honestly, there are so much more things to do... but, staying on track into you essentialist lifestyle is, well... let's say, essential!

I am an avid reader! I love reading on many different subjects and a great deal of different authors and genre.

Here's a list of my all time favorite books!

Perhaps, if I was to make the list in a month from now it might be different but as if this morning, this is what I came up with.

Le petit prince, St-Exupery
Never-ending story, Ende
The Three Musketeers, Dumas
Narnia, Lewis
La Valse Lente des tortues, Pancol
Le Zebre, Jardin
Dans les coulisses du musee, Atkinson
Un parfum de cedre, MacDonald
Au nom de tous les miens, Gray
Eat pray love, Gilbert
The hidden life of trees, Wohlleben
Grits for the mill, Ram Cass
Liberty, Osho
The wheels of life, Judith
Healing your emotional self, Engel

There you have it!

Have you ever read any of these?
Did you like it/them?

Chloe 💜&✌

New orientation for the blog

Hello lovely readers!

First, a few announcements...

1) New link to register by email - if you were registered before you will need to do it again as I changed the domain name.

2) Slightly different look - bet you noticed that!

3) More focused content

Well, it was time for a change...  a few hints were pointing in my direction and I finally took them.
I had been thinking about it for a while...  and after this morning intense brainstorming session, it all became clear!

I was lacking direction, purpose...  I was writing my thoughts on this blog but it was all over the place with no specific aim...  so I kept missing my target! I would write about anything interesting me but I couldn't find the common ground.  I finally did! Yay!

As you may, or may not have noticed, I also changed my introductory presentation to this one:

"Hello! Here, I wish to share my knowledge and show you how, by living an essentialist life, we can save our planet, be healthier, happier and stress free. Enjoy!"

This reflects exactly what I wish to do.  I already wrote about essentialism here. This is my key.

After days of reflection, I realized that the common thread to everything I was writing about was always the environment...  of course there are health benefits but essentially, the one thing I have been passionate about all my life is the environment! Whether I write about my food choices, my shopping bans, my second hand furniture, my yoga practice, my camping trips... What I am really good at is sharing, teaching what I know. What the world needs right now, is more knowledge how we can, by our every day actions and personal lifestyle, save out planet.  The health benefits are just a nice side effect to the whole thing...

So here's this blog.  To do all of that.

Therefore, from now on, this blog will be about an essentialist lifestyle.  How you can, by implementing my suggestions in your daily life, do your share to help save Mother Earth.  We need to do this...  I have a kid, a surely some of you do too...  we inherited a more or less healthy planet and we are leaving it in even worse condition... maybe it's time we do something about it! We do not have to behave like previous generations.  There are other ways.  If not for us, for our little or not-so-little ones.

Of course, you cannot do everything... neither can I. We still want to enjoy life... But I believe that if we try, if each one of us do our share, cut our losses, make open-eye decisions on each of our actions, what we feel comfortable with or not, we can have a positive impact. Every action each one of us makes is cumulative and in the end, we can shift the situation we are currently in.  I believe so.  I need you to also.

As a result, I will still write about lifestyle choices, about what I do, how I live and stuff... but it will always be related to an essentialist lifestyle.

I am now asking you guys a BIG FAVOR!  If you like the new direction of this blog, please share, share and share!!!  I am really trying to build a community here of like minded people who wish to do what they can for this world to go a little better!

Chloe 💜&✌