On my facebook page on Sunday I posted this video :
basically, it's a video about people you see in your everyday life..... people you cross on the street, on the bus, in a mall, at a coffee shop... in the video, it really is just in a medical center but it could be extended to every life situation you encounter.
Aren't we quick to judge people? Come on... you can admit it.... at least to yourself! Unless you're been practicing compassion for years, on in the case of very rare naturally born compassionate people that were in no way influenced by society, we all do it or did it at some point!!! To a bigger or lesser extent.... and I am not saying that in the wrong way... the word "judging" seems bad... but it can be as simple as just thinking "this person seems like she's having a bad day"... "there's someone with a nice smile" (sarcastically)... "this person seems stressed out"... "what is wrong with him/her?"... see what I mean? We do not necessarily do it to be mean... but we are human being and we think and analyze most of what we see... the problem is that we analyze it according to our frame of reference... our way of thinking... our values... but we're all different... and beyond what we think we see, there's a whole person... going thru her life... her stuff.. her "shit"! We all do... but we think we're the only one!!!
Beyond that "non-smiley" face, can be a really sad person... that's going thru a divorce, has a sick child, lost someone they loved, lost an animal, lost all their belonging to a fire, is sick, dying or whatever else life throws at us!!! It could also be stress... because they are having financial issues, lost their job, undergoing surgery soon, expecting a child... or then again, it could be so many other things! We simply have NO CLUE!!! But it surely is NOT directed towards us specifically...
Same goes for people who seems really happy! They are not necessarily making fun of us! They might just be really happy! Having a great day, got a promotion, met an old friend, reacquainted with a long lost relative... and the list goes on...
My point is, we really have no clue as to what the people we see everyday are going thru... being good or bad... what if we could see thru their hearth? Would we be more compassionate knowing they have a sick child than just seeing their stressed-out sad face? Would it be as bad if someone cut us off in line if they had to hurry to get back home to take care of a troubled teenager?
So next time you see people... that seem sad, angry, stressed or happy... just be compassionate... empathetic... and think about the fact that they too have a life... with all that this implies... JUST LIKE YOU!!! Don't be so quick to "judge" or "criticise" them... even just in your head... be compassionate... try to understand.... and remember that you too have "off" days... where you are stressed... sad.. angry.... happy.... but life goes on... and you may never see them again but there is no need to be so harsh on them if they're having a bad time.... don't add to it! Also don't be jealous if they're happy! Be happy for happy people!!
And lastly, try and treat people like you'd like to be treated when you're having an "off" day!!! Do you like feeling like you're looked at? Judge? Talked about? Well don't do it...
If everyone on this planet, would be a little more compassionate, all our lives would be so much easier... and nicer....
"Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well." Gandhi
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