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Friday, September 6, 2013

You can't control everything!

signing copies of Life Happens for a bookstore to display on shelves
Years ago I had my life programmed till my retirement.... and beyond...  I was young... and innocent enough to think that a life well plan would be the best one!!!

I was soooooooo wrong....  Over the years, I learned that you can plan... but you have no control... so it rarely does turn out the way you wanted too!!!  I also learned that life has it's own surprise for you... and that we change constantly.... so what I wanted at 24 is not what I want now at 40!  So it's impossible to have every minor details of you life planned by the time you graduate from University and find you first job!!!

In 1996.... here's where I were... I had just graduated from University and got a very decent job in the pharma industry with all that it implies... I was temp...

In 1996... here's how I saw my life:

Get permanent position in the company.
Move up the ladder to a director position...  in the same company...
To keep my benefit and increase the salary and vacation time.
Buy a house in a nice area
Have 3 kids
Pay off the house in 16 years
Vacations 2-3 times a year
Retire at 55
Travel the world with my partner, the father of my 3 kids.

I was 24 at the time...
I am now about to turn 41...

and let me tell you that nothing much happen to that plan.... 

I got permanent...  bought a house.... got one kid (a boy)...
Separated, sold the house.....  bought another one..... was diagnosed with MS...  got married to another guy (not my son's father)...lost job..... bought a small business... sold the house... loss the business...  moved into an apartment... went bankrupt... found a temp less paying job.... changed job.... for a slightly more paying one with permanency and benefits... lost job....  found another contract position less paid...  but... that I enjoy!!!  and that is rewarding in many more ways than $$$...

In between all that, I discovered yoga!!!  And it was life changing...  I learned to let go (OK, I can't do it completely yet but I am getting there)! Learned to live in the present moment.... to do stuff because I like it rather than because I have a diploma and a house to pay...  to chose my next move according to stuff I love to do... not based on income... 

Yoga brought me to write and publish a book....  that you can purchase here on Amazon! A book that is making it's way in libraries... slowly but surely... this book is bringing me to start offering conferences on nutrition and stress management...  and it has made me meet a bunch of extraordinary people!

It is miles away from my initial "I am 24 years old and I know everything" plan....

I do not have a house or a car...  I live in a small apartment with very few possession...
I will probably not retire at 55... not only because I can't afford it... but because what I do is so rewarding I do not want to stop doing it! It makes me happy.... it brings me joy....

I am getting to know amazing people and changing their life... and this is much more rewarding than anything else I could have done in that big pharma cie...

And between you and me... I have no clue what is up next...  I am just enjoying the ride.. without knowing what the destination is.... because the destination really is not important if the ride sucks!

I also know that there will always be a solution to everything....  you just have to wait and see...

Everything is perfect as it is now... Everything is exactly what you need now... Everything just is...

You may wonder why?  but it is what it is....

Just enjoy the ride.... the destination is a bonus!


I am always happy to hear from you... do not hesitate to contact me!!!

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love and peace,
nath
xox
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2 comments:

  1. You are a truly inspiring person! You should write another book! I love Life Happens, as you know, and would love to read more about your lifestyle, your experiences, your ups and downs... I'm glad that I met your blog almost a year ago and for that I'm very grateful!

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    1. Rita! thanks you so much!!! I have another book in my head... it will take time as it will be deeper and bigger than Life Happens... but it will happen...
      I am also starting conferences on nutrition and stress management soon and will eventually launch them by videoconference too... just give me time! ;-)
      You will hear more about me....
      love&peace,

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