What if less was more?
We live in a society where we constantly feel like we need "more"... more stuff, more clothes, more activities, more projects, more money, more time, more space, more friends, more vacation, more furniture, more outdoor stuff...
What if all this "more" we need were incompatible?
What if all this "need" was not a real need?
What if this poem, "The paradox of time" actually was right?
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, yet more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; big men and small character; steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce; fancier houses but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.
So in this time or "resolutions"... in this time where people will engage themselves to loose weight, eat better, travel more, exercise more, buy a house, get into a stable relationship, get a new car, upgrade their computer. find a higher paying job to increase their income, get more "like" or "views" on their social media, increase their number of FB friends... build their own business... you name it.... I will challenge you to do this instead:
Give your stuff away.
Make room in your home for walking around, lying down, doing yoga, sitting on the floor with friends.
Dress with less. You can wear the same thing 2-3 times in a week.
Anything you did not wear in a season give away - someone will.
Meet new people in real life.
Invite your new real life friends home for tea.
Go for coffee with friends and no one can pull out their phone.
Close your social media accounts - all of them but one.
On the one you kept, clean up your friends/followers list - keep only those who matters.
Downgrade your smart phone so that people can't reach you 24/7 on social medias.
Alternatively, leave you smart phone home once or twice a week.
Read real paper books you get from the library.
Learn how to do grocery shopping.
Learn how to cook.
Eat real food.
Spend less money on food - you eat to much anyway. Yes you do!
Eat more at home and much much less out. Much less...
Walk/bike to places instead of spending money on expensive gym membership.
Play outside with your kids.
Go for a long walk with your lover - no money spent.
Start movie night with your family instead of going out or all watching different things.
Keep only one television set.
Find your passion - your real passion - you can really have only one or two real passions.
Delete some activities/obligations from your agenda.
Get some "me alone" time.
Figure out what you would like to do with your life.
Journaling, meditation, yoga will help. Even if you think you suck at it.
Figure out where your money goes.
Cut expenses that are not really needed from your budget.
Find a job you love even if it means less money - because you don't need that much anyway.
Be honest with yourself cause you deserve it...
Let go of "what will people say?" because you shouldn't care really... it is your life, not theirs.
Let go of society created expectations. It is all bullshit. You do not need or even really want that life if you take the time to think about it. It leads you to work you ass off to make more money at something you don't like, to spend on things you do not need, to impress people you do not really care for.. to end up sick and broken... way too early!
Be true to yourself and others.
For it is all that matters.
Oh and one last thing... it is OK to be sad... upset... angry... it is OK to let go of people and stuff... it's OK to have less "ambitions"... it is OK to not follow the masses (take of the m in masses and this is what it's made of)...
Be original as you were born that way!!!
Be yourself cause everyone else is taken!!
And if you need help, support let me know. I am here for you. Just comment on what you need help with and I can write more extensively about it. You can also PM me on FB.